Yesterday’s KIOS Blog-A-Thon prompt asked: “What Are Ten Things You Know For Sure?”
- We are all mirrors to each other. That girl you’re jealous of? She embodies a quality of yourself that you have abandoned. Hate how your partner is always showing up late? You may want to ask yourself how you don’t follow through on your words. Everyone around us is a mirror. What we like and don’t like in others is what we like and don’t like (or have and wish we had) in ourselves.
- Own one nice suit because you never know when you’ll have to go to court. A long time ago I came across a blue women’s suit, and was compelled to buy it. Thank god I did, because one day I had witnessed an incident at work and BAM! I was given a subpoena. I didn’t have “nice” clothes then, so that suit came in handy.
- If you were once a child, then you still are. Okay, I use to HATE inner child stuff, and I’m still uncomfortable with the term, but I know that if I’m really happy or really hurt, I can follow that thread back to my childhood. In each joy is a reconnection to my true self, and in each hurt is an opportunity for healing.
- Perception is everything. A much-loved psychology instructor of mine put it this way: “If you step in dog shit, it’s annoying and disgusting to you. If a dog came across that same dog shit, he’d be so happy because there is a whole world of information in that shit.” Now, I’m not saying to sniff dog shit, but what I am saying is that how your perceive things shapes how you feel and re/act. I think it’s okay to feel sadness, anger, frustration etc. in challenging times. The growth comes in shifting your perception to have a difference experience. This is how e break unhealthy patterns and experience life on a richer level.
- Meditation works! If I practice meditation, I notice that I react less, am less stressed, have more trust, and sometimes even gain clarity in a troubling situation. When I am overwhelmed by discomfort, a clear answer on how I can proceed comes to me if I meditate. (See: Possibility is Everywhere)
- Possibility is everywhere (aka you already have all the answers). In times of stress, it’s easy to believe that our options are limited. By nature it feels that way as our biology can only see limited options in order to survive. Truth is, all the options already exist in you and in the world. If you can slow down by breathing and/or meditating, you’ll begin to see your possibilities more clearly. A multitude of options are waiting to be seen, and you don’t have to “make things happen”. All you need is to slow down enough to know what yo already know.
- In stepping out of your comfort zone, you will find growth (also, it’s okay to wait). If you have issues with trust and faith, this can be a hard one. It’s so easy to stay in our comfort zone, even if things are uncomfortable. Sometimes it takes things to get REALLY uncomfortable in order to take a leap out of your comfort zone. But truth is, what’s waiting for you on the other side is exciting, and you don’t have to let things gets really bad before you start. Sometimes the stakes seem too high and the leap seems too scary. I say it’s okay to wait until you are ready “enough”. I say “enough” because if you wait too long, you may never take the leap. Being kind to yourself is necessary, so acknowledge if it’s just too big a step “right now”. The more to take a chance, and step out of your comfort zone, the more trust and faith you build in yourself and life in general.
- “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” (~ Viktor E. Frankl) What I know for sure about this, is that this is true, powerful, and life changing. It’s a skill to be able catch yourself in a moment of reaction and collect yourself enough to choose an action. As you build this skill, you grow and realize that there is freedom in choice.
- Being compassionate to yourself is a gift to yourself and others. We are our harshest critics, so if you’re able to tame that side of you and really grow your compassionate side, it’s amazing how we can increase our capacity to be compassionate, understanding, and patient with others. The bonus is, you take things less personally.
- The S/Heroes Journey is real! The S/heroes Journey isn’t limited to Dorothy, Luke Skywalker, and Harry Potter. No my dears, the S/Heroes journey is life itself. To know this is to realize your potential, increase your capacity for gratitude, and see magic in the seemingly ordinary. Find out more visit here and here.
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